When Your Partner is not in the Mood for Sex

By: Cristian Stan
Submitted: 2008-10-23 22:25:34
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It happens. You are raring to provide and obtain sexual pleasure one steamy night but your partner seems to be offline. It is really hard to get into the mood for sex when one of you is feeling edgy, worried, anxious, or physically unmotivated.

That recurring headache she's always complaining about may just be a pretense. Maybe she's just making that up because she doesn't want to make love to you tonight. So how do you fix a problem like this?

Partners should be on the same groove when it comes to sex. Otherwise, one of you won't derive any pleasure from it. This means that whenever you want to do it, your partner has to be more than willing to give it to you. If it doesn't work this way, then the union would be less than satisfying.

Women could be put into the right mood with a few tender touches, sweetness, and foreplay. This is regardless if they complain about that headache or not. Oftentimes, men simply want to have sex right there. They keep on forgetting that women wanted to be caressed and touched before the real act begins. But of course, if the headache were real, an Advil may really be in order.

As for men, putting them into the mood is much simpler. Women simply have to be more persuasive than she was before. Suggestive looks, hot lingerie, and naughty talks are usually effective. If none of these works, then there really is a problem with your partner and you might want to know what. You have to solve that concern first to finally hit the right button and get the first prize, which incidentally, comes in the form of passionate love.

Sex is always a two-way street. It is never a one-way journey. While it can be possibly work that way, the result almost always never good. The strength of both marriage and companionship has a lot to do with sex. This means that in the absence of it, couples rarely stick with one another.

Understanding why your partner acts and feels as if he's not in the mood for sex is always important. As much as physical union is essential, mental intercourse is necessary as well. By talking to your partner, you'd know what's in his mind and probably, what's wrong with you or your sex life together. Then you can make the necessary adjustments to make things work out for both of you.

So whenever you partner says no, don't take it against you. Maybe she has a lot on her mind. Maybe she wanted to talk to you and not make love for the time being. If you do it her way, then you will surely get your reward in the end. Sometimes, it merely takes a small portion of your patience to get whatever it is that you like.

However, women are most affected when their partner tells them no. Often times, she begins to think that she's no longer beautiful or desirable to stimulate his manly pleasures. Well, don't let your mind race that far. It may not be because of those. Maybe he just wanted some fresh air. And when he has got enough, he would definitely look for you for comfort.

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