What Not to Say in an Email - Ever

By: Marius Ciobanu
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:23:43
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When it comes to sending emails to your online crush, it may be tempting to tell everything about yourself that anyone has ever told you was interesting…and then some. However, when it comes to sending emails, at least in the beginning of your online relationship, the name of the game is restraint. It is important that you do not overwhelm your potential suitor with confessions or long-winded rants. Instead, until you build a solid foundation of trust and comfort, keep your emails short and purposeful.

Still even if those emails are very short and purposeful, there are certain things that you simply will not want to say. Here is a short overview of some of those basic no-nos.

1. Do not send threats. If you sent a threat through email, it is a federal offense. Because most emails traverse through federally guarded and maintained airways, they are considered to be public property. Therefore, just like in a phone call, you are prohibited from saying anything threatening or offensive on email. Also, why would you want to threaten someone if you want to actually date them? The days of playing hard to get are over, as far as threats are concerned.

2. Be deliberate about the details of your life. While it may be tempting to write a tell-all novel for that person that you’re so interested in dating, be deliberate about the information that you share. Every piece of information will help your crush to learn more about you. Therefore, say positive, meaningful things in the beginning (or always.) Help the person get a better idea of just who you are at the core. Share thoughts, jokes and your opinion on certain matters. But make sure that each of these communications if purposeful.

3. Be positive. One of the most telling signs that a relationship may not end on a happy long-term note is if your partner is overtly negative. Negative emails will not only be downers for the day, but they will also not represent a somewhat catastrophic side of your mate’s personality. After all, even if the email is funny and realistic, too much negative energy will drain the living daylights out of your creativity and vibrancy.

4. Talk about yourself. While in general communications, it is considered polite to avoid talking too much about yourself, when you’re getting to know a potential mate it is important to be as open and honest as possible. In fact, it is considered polite to go out of your way to talk about yourself it talking about yourself is not something that you ordinarily do. One way to let your potential mate know that you’re interested in a long-term relationship (or just a deep sense of understanding) is to talk about how you feel so that he or she can determine whether the two of you truly are intellectually, emotionally and spiritually compatible. Therefore, try not to avoid talking about yourself.

There are certain common considerations that come in all relationships when a pair is getting to know one another on a new level. If you are embarking on a relationship with someone via the Internet, it is vital that you observe the basic rules of email. While there is no written policy on email communications, it is generally considered polite to share information in a positive, optimistic and interested manner. Of course, always be sure to ask plenty of questions about your partner as well so that you also can determine whether or not the relationship will be compatible in the long-tern. Happy typing!

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