A Divorced Christian's Biblical View on Divorce and Re-marriage

By: Matthew Robert Payne
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:25:28
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It was about two years ago and I was sitting hearing a preacher say in scripture that I cannot re marry while my wife was still alive. Even if she was the one that left me, even though she was the one that had affair and even though I was the innocent party. I already knew this as the Holy Spirit had told me a year before but this sermon stopped me looking for a girlfriends and forever solved my doubt in what the Holy Spirit said. Since that time I have had three single women try and get me to turn my view around as they wanted to marry me. And so while this is both educational this is also written to those women who wish to contact me and try and win my hand in marriage.

Let us look at the first verse.

Romans 7:2-3 (New King James Version) 2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.

My wife has remarried another man and I am still alive. She got a no fault divorce from me that simply said that we had lived apart for one year and that we had problems that could not be reconciled. I am still her husband in the eyes of the Lord as the Lord said what He has put together let NO MAN put asunder.

When I am dead my former with is free of me but not before that time. At present she is an adulteress. Jesus calls us adulterers in James when we are loving the world rather then us. My wife is with another man and not with me and this is not right.

I bless her and am happy for her but I am not sure where she will end up when she dies as in this verse it says adulterers will not enter heaven.

Galatians 5:19-21 (New King James Version) 9 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders] drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Whilever she lives with another man and her first husband is single and wanting prayerfully for her to return she is committing adultery. If she continues on this way I am not sure where she will end up. I know this might worry a few of you in second marriages but for you in the process of separation this may tempt you to reconcile with your partner. God can heal anything if both parties want to heal it.

Okay let us a look at another verse that Jesus said

Mark 10:11-12 (New King James Version) 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

It is pretty clear here and I can’t understand how people can not understand this verse. Simply pout no matter what the reason for the divorce a man cannot re-marry another lady. If he wants to divorce his wife he has to remain single for the rest of his life. If he is going to be burned up with lust he has to repent and get the grace not to masturbate. This is possible for men as I have to be frank here I have done it..

If a women has picked a child abuser for a husband or a drinker who beats her up she might leave him but she is to stay single for the rest of her life or else see her husband gets healing and go back to him. This is where the church is in great error. These ladies are to be treated as widows in the church and looked after but cannot re marry unless their husband dies.

This makes you think you should hire a killer to kill your spouse and repent and then re- marry but we all know that is a joke and not God’s way.

If you leave your wife and divorce you cannot re-marry
If you leave your husband and divorce you cannot re- marry

So the best thing is to forgive each other and get on with a healthy marriage which Jesus loves us to do.

Anything less is no only disobedience but making a mockery of God’s power.

Matthew 5:31-32 (New King James Version)

31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality] causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

Any person that married a lady that has been divorced commits adultery. And the only reason for divorce is sexual immorality which not only includes adultery but if one of the partners is gay. Jesus is quite clear that a divorced woman is off limits.

Matthew 19:9 (New King James Version)

9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality,[a] and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery. Anyone marrying a divorced woman commits adultery. These verse are kind of hinting that a husband can divorce a wife for adultery and re-marry but I don’t care personally the Mark 10:11-12 verse says different.

I I am happy being single and without a women in my life I can spend more on my ministry and doing things the Lord wants me to do without having to look after a wife and a child. I still pay for my son each week but I am free of a wife which makes me very happy. Don’t get me wrong I love women and respect them and have quite a few good friends but like Jesus I would prefer my women friends to be like Mary Magdalene and not wives.

Luke 16:17-18 (New King James Version)

17 And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for one tittle of the law to fail. 18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. Once again a man that divorces his wife and marries another women commits adultery and any man that married a lady that has been divorced commits adultery.

So watch out men! Stay away from divorced women who want to marry you! And visa verse women who are single stay away from divorced men, go and get a man that has never been married

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 (New King James Version)

10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. . Now here is the solution to the whole thing. If the husband can’t be lived with as he is violent or abusing the children as women you can leave him but you are to stay married to him and no re marry. And a male is never allowed to agree to a divorce.

Now we have a wicked system these days that allow a wife to divorce a man without him agreeing and it allows her to re marry but I never singled one piece of paper with my wife for a divorce. Therefore I am still married to her under God’s view and my wife might find herself in hell one day.

So guys no matter how bad you wife has been you are NEVER to divorce them and you have to get your sex drive under control and live without another women for the term of your natural life.

And women you should not leave your husband but if need be you can but you should never have any other partner.

Now I don’t write this for fun and this is not malice, this is simply and article expressing the Biblical truth. It is not a Greek translation and I am not a scholar and it’s just my understanding of the scriptures. You can disagree and no obey what is taught in the Word here, but that is your choice as in the last day Jesus real meanings and words will judge all the living and the dead and I have done my duty.

Let me pray

Father

I pray that this person going through divorce might see that even if they do they have to remain single for the rest of their lives. I pray that this might bear fruit and one in a hundred readers might take my counsel. I pray that the lies of the enemy and pastors with false doctrine may be silenced some day. I ask that you give the reader the courage to read the supporting article I suggest at the bottom of this article. Jesus give these e people strength to obey your word in this trying time

In Jesus name I ask with thanksgiving.

Amen

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