Are You Still Emotionally Trapped By Your Parent's Divorce?

By: Nick Arrizza, M.D.
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:23:54
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What is the emotional impact of divorce on children who experience it?

Well some are:

1. The emotional shock of losing the family structure and home.

2. The wrenching guilt that comes with having to choose between parents.

3. The deep fear of feeling and/or being abandoned by a parent.

4. The trauma of acrimonious proceedings.

5. The lack of mature relationship models that leading them to later mistrust relationships.

6. A fear and belief of having been the cause of the divorce along with feelings of guilt and self loathing.

7. Grief at having to give up friendships and familiar surroundings.

8. The feelings of embarrassment, shame and humiliation among one's peers.

9. A deep sense of insecurity, feelings of low self esteem and low self worth.

And so on...

Much of this trauma becomes stored in the mind and body and can pose significant limitations on one's future success in relationships.

It's not uncommon to see such individuals either withdrawing from relationships all together or repeating parental dysfunctional patterns and becoming re-traumatized by their own divorces.

It's often said that "trauma begets trauma". In this case one could add that "divorce begets divorce".

Often the trauma of divorce takes on a life of its own and dominates the life course of an individual making them feel like a reluctant passenger.

The cycle can be broken and children of divorced parents can reclaim control over the trajectory of their lives by effectively releasing this trauma from within.

A new modality I developed over 10 years ago called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) has shown the powerful ability to help individuals quickly, painlessly, easily and permanently release large swaths of emotional trauma from within their minds and bodies.

This results in a renewed sense of self that is accompanied by self confidence, self esteem, self worth, feelings of joy, contentment, resilience, inner peace, security, an ability to be one's genuine and honest self without fear of intimacy or rejection, an ability to open one's heart to self love and to loving others and to a new and more effective way of forging mature relationships that last.

If you are an adult child of divorced parents and are reliving your parent’s dilemma and you would like support in changing your trajectory kindly click on the web link below and arrange an Introductory Telephone Consultation.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

Web Site: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/IntroConsult.htm

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