Divorce Recovery: 7 Ways to Love Yourself While Going Through the Dark Tunnel

By: Udall DeOleo
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:25:10
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Recovering from divorce can seem like a dark endless tunnel. The divorce process is emotionally draining, time consuming and downright miserable. During the midst of my divorce, I discovered the necessity of learning to love and take care of myself. I am sharing with you 7 ways of loving and rejuvenating yourself through what seems like a dark tunnel.

Way 1: Play with yourself --Take yourself on a play date.

Do something fun that you haven’t done before or haven’t done in a long time. This gives you an opportunity to enjoy time with yourself. Treat yourself to a movie-the kind you love but your spouse would have hated.

Way 2: Play with children.

Divorce can be hard on children. If you have children, make play dates with them and spend time laughing and doing some of their favorite activities. Give them time to spend with their friends. Laugher and play are healing and will give the children wonderful memories to cherish during this trying time. If you don’t have children, find one or some to hang out with or find the child in you by playing--swing, roller skate, Go-kart. Laughter and play will raise your spirit.

Way 3: Get plenty of rest.

Your body needs plenty of sleep for healing and repair. Sleep deprivation can keep your emotions on edge and raw. Do something calming such as meditation or drinking chamomile tea to relax before turning in for the night. Of course, don’t attempt to spend all of your time in bed wallowing in misery either.

Way 4: Indulge in a treat for your body.

Be careful of making any drastic changes. If you’d been eyeing a new hairstyle for while, consider doing it. However, it is best to do minor changes that may complement your current style, such as highlights, a good trim or shape up. Get a spa treatment such as a manicure, pedicure, facial or massage.

Way 5: Makeover your wardrobe.

Your clothes can determine how you feel throughout the day. Wearing a piece of clothing or jewelry that you really like gives you a good feeling. Look for a piece to add to your wardrobe that makes you feel really sexy. Buy sexy under garments that only you know are underneath. Look for colors that look good on you. Find clothes that match your body type. It is nothing like having the soon-to-be-ex wondering why you look so good.

Way 6: Change your living space.

Since this was a space that you shared with your spouse, make some changes that reflect you. Redo your bedroom with a new color scheme. Buy a new comforter and/or a set of new sheets. Rearrange the furniture in as many rooms as possible. All or any of these moves will shift the energy of the space which in turn shifts your mood and makes the space feel new and all yours.

Way 7: Take a mini vacation.

How far you travel is not the key. The main point is that you need some time away from the hum-drum and drama that your divorce may bring. If your finances don’t allow you to leave your area then spend a night or weekend out with friends. Get out of your regular space and regular routine.

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