I Don't Want A Divorce!

By: Jennie Crawford
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:25:28
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Do you ever feel like your marriage and marital relation ship is completely out of control? Sometimes it seems as if things just keep on going downhill and you are powerless to stop it. Does it seem like the relationship between you and your spouse has been damaged beyond repair?

I don’t think it really matters what the issues are. If someone is unhappy in a relationship, no matter what the reasons, it will harm the relationship. Even if the reasons they are unhappy are completely unreasonable. Have you ever had a situation with a spouse in which you did a certain behavior, lets use going out with friends as an example. Your spouse did not join you. You always asked if it was alright if you went and your spouse never indicated it wasn’t. So you just kept doing it, oblivious to the fact that your spouse was completely unhappy and resentful of all the time you were spending away. Now, who’s problem is that? Is it the spouse who is always spending times with their friends? Or is it the spouse who never asks them not too? I think that you can agree that both bear responsibility for the problem..

But is a problem like this unsurmountable? It shouldn’t be. Effective communication and sacrifice on both ends should resolve this particular issue quite easily. Unfortunately, communication between two angry spouses is usually anything but effective. So what do you do if your spouse says that they have had it and want out?

You can stop a divorce from happening, even if you are the only one who wants too. You do have the power to turn the momentum around on a relationship and get it going in a positive direction. Your differences can be reconciled and your relationship improved. By learning what is involved in a successful marriage, you can create one with your spouse together and put all the talk of divorce behind you. Effective communication is one of the keys. Arguing with each other is a complete waste of time and will generally get you nowhere. Usually, arguments turn into discussions about issues not even relating to the one at hand. Old issues are often brought up, and nothing really gets resolved. You need to learn practical and helpful solutions to the problems that plague your marriage. Even if you are the only one interested in saving it, you can still make headway in stopping the divorce all on your own.

Jennie Crawford is the stay at home mom of two small children. For more information go to http://www.jenniecrawford.com/stopyourdivorce

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