No Fault Divorce – What It Really Means

By: Gary Kelly
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:23:54
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If you live in an area that offers no fault divorce, you maybe surprised to realize what the term “no fault” really means.

Regardless if you are the person seeking a divorce or the person that has been served the divorce papers, one thing is for sure, your life is about to change. If you are like many people going through a divorce you will experience many emotions, including anger, resentment and bitterness.

After the initial divorce proceedings have been initiated, many people begin building a case to demonstrate how the other person did not contribute to the marriage in a physical or emotional way. Lots of energy is expended looking for supporting evidence to sustain your position that the other person did not participate in the marriage in good faith.

When you think about it, blaming our partner for a marriage failure is often an easy and convenient way for us to not blame ourselves.

If you live in an area that offers no fault divorce, don’t waste your time and energy trying to demonstrate how the other person was wrong or did things that were detrimental to the relationship.

No fault divorce means the responsibility for the break down in the marriage cannot be assigned to one person because of their behavior. This may surprise some people but you would be well served to quickly come to this realization. The sooner you realize that blaming your partner for the marriage failure is useless, the quicker you will be able to channel that emotion into the healing process.

If your county offers no fault divorce, it does not make any difference if your partner was an alcoholic, a gambler, a player or a general no good for nothing type person. You partner could be having sexual relations with the entire town or city and it would not make any difference in the divorce proceedings. This all assumes there was no physical abuse of course.

While no fault divorce could appear to be great on the surface, it does nothing to assign blame or responsibility. Friends and family maybe shocked to realize that the “failing” partner cannot be taken to task for their actions but in the eyes of the law; no fault literally means no fault.

Rather then focusing your energy, time and money on blaming your partner, you would be better served to focus your efforts on healing yourself and trying to repair your self-image.

The quicker you can accept this fact, the quicker you can move on. Ultimately, moving on should be your primary goal after divorce.

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, DateAGolfer.com and PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.

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