Three Questions To See If You Are Headed For Divorce

By: Gary Kelly
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:23:54
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There are many self-help books out there that can help you determine if you are headed for a divorce. An entire industry of Dr. Phil copycats has made a great deal of money preying upon the emotional instability that accompanies a divorce.

While nothing related to a divorce or separation can be simplified into three simple questions, the following questions can certainly help you get a better understanding of your marital stability.

Do you both agree on the amount of sexual activity in your relationship?

If the answer is no - WARNING! If you and your partner are miles apart on the amount of sexual activity you both consider appropriate for your relationship, you really should address this problem as soon as possible.

Ultimately, if a couple is not in agreement about the level of sexual activity within their relationship, problems will arise. This discrepancy often leads to feelings of resentment or bitterness. Sex, intimacy, love and a successful relationship often all go hand in hand. It’s finding that correct balance that couples can agree upon which is most important.

Do you both argue and not talk to one another for a couple of days?

If the answer is yes – WARNING! If you and your partner go to bed angry at one another and often don’t talk to one another after an argument for an extended period of time, you may have some serious issues that need to be dealt with.

The longer issues go unresolved, the bigger these issues will become. It is better to deal with the regular issues that arise in a marriage right away. Offer forgiveness and have a frank and open discussion about how you feel.

Do you take separate vacations?

If you have always taken vacations together and suddenly one of the partner’s starts expressing an interest in having separate vacations, you should really consider this a warning sign. Why does one of the partners suddenly want a separate vacation? Why do they want separate time? This is probably indicative of a deeper underlying problem.

Many people would suggest that separate vacation time is an important part of a healthy relationship. Conversely, other people would submit that this is the beginning of the end a healthy relationship.

The most important thing to consider when it comes to separate vacations is weather or not both partners have always agreed that separate vacations are important or if this happens over a period of time.

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.

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