When You Are Not Invited – Life After Divorce

By: Gary Kelly
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:23:54
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When you were part of a couple, there were other couples you probably hung around with. There were dinner parties or the picnics on the beach and the occasional summer BBQ where wine and conversation flowed like a river. You all got together and had a great time.

After a divorce, relationships with some of your friends might change. Correction – after a divorce, relationships with some of your friends will change.

You will quickly discover that certain friends or couples you hung around with prior to your divorce or separation have suddenly disappeared. Regular phone calls and invitations to parties suddenly stop coming.

For some people this can be very unsettling and disturbing.

If you are going through a divorce or separation, you should remember these people often do not have any malice in their hearts. In many cases, couples tend to hang around with other couples. When inviting friends to a party or summer BBQ, couples tend to invite other people with similar situations and backgrounds as themselves.

You should also remember that some of your friends might feel awkward speaking with you after a divorce. They may not know what to say to you. Rather then dealing with the embarrassing thoughts of what to say and do, often times the path of least resistance is easiest way.

Not inviting you to one of the parties is often the easiest way to side step an embarrassing situation. Accept it as that and nothing more.

You can approach this change in your life in two ways. You can either become bitter and angry that some of your friends no longer call or you can accept this as a normal part of life after a divorce.

Life after a divorce does exist. Use this opportunity in your life to take up a new hobby like golf or yoga. Make new single friends and start to do new activities that you would not normally do while you were married. Very soon you will see that new friends and new invitations will start to come up.

Don’t be angry at your “old” friends because they don’t call you after your divorce. Just realize it is probably easier for them not to call – nothing more – nothing less.

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.

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