Questions To Ponder For The Future Dad

By: Teeja Hivsbob
Submitted: 2008-05-20 12:46:35
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So you've reached the point at which you're already considering on spending your lifetime with the person you're with, and this includes having children with her in the future. While most women see the possibility of child-bearing and child-rearing a gift, many men are terrified with it, not because they don't want children, but because they are worried if they are up to it. If you're facing a similar situation, here are some things to consider before you take the leap.

Although an uncomfortable dilemma, the first thing, which you should think about is if you are financially secure enough to raise the child. Will present and future job opportunities be rewarding enough to put your child through school, and well into adolescence?

Although the future is relatively uncertain, you must be able to determine if you can support a family well, all expenses considered. If you hesitate in answering this most basic of questions, then it is best to wait until your financial prospects become more stable.

If you don't have a regular nine-to-five job, but are involved in an alternative career, are you ready to explain to your child about your career in a manner, which would be of true relevance to him or her? Door-to-door salesmen are usually faced with this dilemma, as well as porn stars who may have some difficulty in revealing the nature of their work to their children.

Although porn stars who have moved on to 'regular lives' may have less problems than those who are still active even with children, they are still faced with the possibility that their children would pick up a copy of their video and wonder why their parents never revealed to them that they led a double life as porn stars in the first place. In such, cases, honesty with modesty is the best way to go.

Are you on the same page as your spouse when it comes to child rearing? While this may seem a harmless question now, take note that one of the causes of resentment between parents is the incompatibility in discipline issues.

You may be keen on physical punishments, while your partner believes in alternative approaches such as grounding and lecturing. While it is true that a fusion of both extremes may indeed benefit the child, you have to decide if you are willing to compromise your grounds on the issue.

Probably the most pressing question, which bugs a potential father's mind, is if he's going to be a good father. Unfortunately, this age-old question is something, which only you can answer for yourself. But you would probably get much for your answer in your own childhood.

If you were raised on a strict family, do you really want to carry this approach with your child? Or do you want to keep your treatment lax, and let your child consider you as his or her best friend? Either way, be prepared to make mistakes (as these are inevitable), but no matter what happens, tell and show your child that you mean well in everything you do.

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