Ever Lost Someone Close - To Death

By: Tim Connor
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:41:42
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During my life, I have been one of the fortunate ones. I have only lost one person to death. Recently my mother passed away, and I can empathize with those of you who have known the sting of death.

There is this tremendous sense of loss. Memories that can never be shared again. Experiences you will never be able to tell them about. Laughter that is gone. Love that is gone. Friendship that is gone. Nothing but this emptiness in your heart.

When a loved one passes away – whether too soon as a young child, or later in the prime, or old as a grandparent who lived to the ripe old age of 95 – the hole in your heart is the same. We miss what could have been and will never be again.

Why does death hurt the living so much? Why do we grieve for our loved ones who have gone to a better place?

Our grieving is often selfishness. We feel cheated, left behind or alone. Why did they leave us? Why did they do this to us? I cannot explain or rationalize the death of a young child because of a drunk driver or murderer running rampant through the halls of some high school or public place. I cannot understand why cancer takes the dear souls in our life, while drug pushers and financial scoundrels get off Scott-free. I can only tell you that there must be a reason. It may be too difficult for me to comprehend with my limited spiritual wisdom, or it may because I have not yet come to totally believe in God’s master plan for salvation.

Regardless, feel your pain. Express your grief. Do not hide behind a fake smile. Send your departed loved ones your love and forgiveness. And then, move on. Yes, without them. I believe my mother will always be with me because she has a special place in my heart and my mind where she carved her name forever on the patchwork of my being. Our loved ones are not gone, just absent for a time. Keep the memory of them alive and active in your actions, decisions, beliefs and values.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at www.timconnor.com.

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