I Want to Be a People Person

By: SaRita Hartin
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:41:50
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Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call this a “people person.”

If you develop your social skills and make use of them, you can become much more of a "people person" than you ever imagined you could be. You just have to know how to start.

1. Be genuine.
Hypocrisy will just bring you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in other people. Once they perceive that you are a hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye. Expressing a sincere interest in others makes you much more approachable, and you will never lack for company.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.
To earn the love and trust of people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, because it does.

3. Laugh out loud.
I don't mean that you should force yourself to laugh at every joke that someone makes. Just try to find humor in things and not be too serious all the time. A person with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually attracts success.

4. Don't forget yourself.
In the process of building relationships, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to run over you. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Commit random acts of kindness. You don't have to be John Rockefeller or donate all of your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matter the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise "Thinking of You" card or helping an elderly person cross the street. Just like the Golden Rule we learned in kindergarten. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends.
It's really sad how some friends are destined to say goodbye, but, thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping through your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally cynical? Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other side of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control.
When you're angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of a situation and transform your anger into something more productive.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious to neglect, no matter what happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never leave you as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.

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