Thoughtfulness; The Mr Nice Guy Syndrome

By: Saheed Badru
Submitted: 2007-01-17 16:41:15
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Making success in life is not just about applying the necessary steps. One’s attitude towards people also matter a lot. Whatever we want to do or achieve, we should always know that we can’t be all-in-one. We will need people around to assist us in one way or the other. People could render assistance, advice, professional help or useful information to us. Our attitude towards them will determine how we’ll be treated in return. We have to bear in mind that we are not in this world alone. We are neither in the same condition as some other people. We could either be in a better or worse condition than them. This is why we need to stretch our hands of kindness to others. We need to consider them and give our best to them.

It’s quite unfortunate that nowadays, most people who believed to have achieved or made upward steps in their lives do not realize that without thoughtfulness, their accomplishments are insignificant. That means that they are just achievers in their own room. Their achievements read no meaning to people. In brevity, their success is valueless. A person who cannot use what he has to help his neighbor has nothing. The most provoking is that such ‘mirage-dwelling’ guys don’t have humanitarian manners. They see themselves as smarter as or better than others. They take some people as super-human and some others as inferior. This kind shouldn’t be in an achiever’s personality. Individuals that are proud and pompous fail to realize that every creation of God is important. God never creates inferior or ‘sub-standard’ human beings. We are all the same in God’s sight, regardless of family background, ethnicity, religion, education, financial status, nobility and so on. When we are assigned a leadership position, we have to treat everyone justly. If you are senior personnel in an establishment, you ought to treat everyone, junior, senior and those that even do menial jobs like cleaners. No one should be restricted from your love. What makes you think that you couldn’t have been in the same position as that laborer or cleaner on the street? It’s all by the special grace of God. That is why you need to appreciate that favor by being nice to others. You might never no what useful help that ordinary person has for you, which could even save your life. You being a pro, lawyer, doctor, or whatever does not make you smarter than a bricklayer or clerk. Though, you attained your heights as a result of your hard work and God’s grace. But you should remember that you did not do it all by yourself. There are some behind-the-scene individuals who gave their best and inspired you. Don’t prejudge or underestimate anyone. That person could be your only life saver in the future!

NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST!

However, you must take note that there are some people who take advantage of your being nice to exploit you in any possible way. You need to use your foresight and handle situations diplomatically. We don’t need to be harsh or unkind to such people. All one needs is wisdom to know when, where and how to avoid them. I hear some people say; "Mr. Nice Guy gets nothing in return". But to be honest with you, being nice pays on the long run. As John F. Kennedy said; "Don’t think of what you will receive from your nation, think of what you can give to the nation". You just play your giving part, and see what awaits you.

Moreover, we must remember that we get from life what we give to it. This is because Nice is as nice does. Also, everyone in the world is worth being nice to, because God never creates inferior human beings. Each person deserves respect and attention. We can’t lose anything by being nice. Kindness is like paying one’s dues to God and the world for the privilege given to live in this planet. In fact, kindness is charity, not just material things alone.

A MAN WHOSE HANDS ARE HELD TIGHT CAN NEVER RECEIVE ANYTHING

In conclusion, it is important to know that behaving kindly to others is a way of setting right examples for others. It’s a way of correcting ‘humanitarian culprits’ and building our leadership qualities. If we are nice to others, others respond in the same way, and we can give our best to each other and make the world more hospitable.

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